Thursday, January 31, 2013

Lying Is A Defense Mechanism

Humans naturally prefer the truth. Look at our children and see. All they ever do is learn stuff and tell you what they've learned. They will tell people exactly what they believe and say anything they notice to a person, regardless of who they are.

So when do children start lying? When it can get them out of trouble. If they can use their words and deception to avoid a punishment, they'll do it. And once it works the first time, it won't stop happening.

Avoiding punishment is really the beginning if it, too. Because any time a person feels uncomfortable, they can lie to change things and feel safer.

Everybody lies for a reason. If you probe deep enough, it always stems from some form if fear. If you have a character that lies, ask yourself what it is they're afraid of, and how lying helps them feel in control of it.

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